{"id":447,"date":"2012-07-31T13:45:45","date_gmt":"2012-07-31T20:45:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/100.42.52.148\/~klaaskid\/blog\/?p=447"},"modified":"2018-04-04T13:37:40","modified_gmt":"2018-04-04T20:37:40","slug":"sierra-lamar-anatomy-of-a-search-day-115","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/sierra-lamar-anatomy-of-a-search-day-115\/","title":{"rendered":"Sierra LaMar: Anatomy of a Search Day 115"},"content":{"rendered":"

A<\/span>nger and forgiveness have been on my mind lately. Not that I carry unfettered anger against any person, place, or thing. Indeed, my anger is directed toward those things that I cannot change. Neither do I want to forgive or be forgiven by anyone. Rather, it is in the context of the Sierra LaMar mystery that my musings wander. It is only a matter of time before the question so often asked of Sierra\u2019s parents and sister, \u201cHow are you feeling,\u201d morphs into \u201cCan you let go of your anger\u201d, and \u201cAre you ready to forgive\u201d.<\/p>\n

I am inevitably taken to task for my failure to forsake anger and my unwillingness to offer forgiveness to Polly\u2019s killer.\u00a0\u00a0Such criticism is borne of inexperience and a lack of knowledge.\u00a0\u00a0Losing a child, like having a child is an epiphany.\u00a0\u00a0The miracle of birth underscores and highlights unconditional love like no other experience can.\u00a0\u00a0When that connection is broken by unrestrained violence it becomes a boundless, cosmic betrayal that tests every emotional, spiritual and physical value.<\/p>\n

Anger is not the negative emotion that is so often portrayed.\u00a0\u00a0We need not deny or stifle anger.\u00a0\u00a0Instead we can use anger to make the world a better place in which to live.\u00a0\u00a0If used correctly and divorced of violence anger can be an enlightened agent of change.\u00a0\u00a0I believe that anger motivated Gandhi<\/a>, King<\/a>, Mandela<\/a>, and many other agents of change throughout history. These men were very angry about the injustice heaped upon their constituency and it was anger that drove them toward the peaceful strategies that enabled them to change the world and return the gift of equality to more than a billion oppressed humans.<\/p>\n

There are those who suggest that we should forgive, that forgiveness makes us better people and that forgiveness is a necessary component of an evolving society.\u00a0\u00a0However, to forgive for sins committed against others is presumptuous and disingenuous.\u00a0\u00a0It would be like me forgiving Hitler<\/a> for murdering six million Jews during World War 2.\u00a0\u00a0Forgiveness for murder is not ours to give.\u00a0\u00a0The only ones in a position to forgive murder are the victims and, by definition, the victims are dead, which makes murder the unforgivable sin.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

nger and forgiveness have been on my mind lately. Not that I carry unfettered anger against any person, place, or thing. Indeed, my anger is directed toward those things that I cannot change. Neither do I want to forgive or be forgiven by anyone. Rather, it is in the context of the Sierra LaMar mystery […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,175],"tags":[299,300],"class_list":["post-447","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-missing-children","category-sierra-lamar","tag-anger","tag-forgiveness"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/447","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=447"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/447\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3305,"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/447\/revisions\/3305"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=447"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=447"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.klaaskids.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=447"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}